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		<title>1950s Marriage Boing</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Jul 2010 19:23:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have been writing a book entitled &#8220;Couple&#8217;s Journey of a Lifetime: Mentoring for Pre-marriage, Re-marriage and Early Marriage&#8221; and I came across this funny YouTube clip on 1950s premarriage counselling. Watch it and you will discover the &#8220;Cupid&#8217;s Checklist,&#8221; a &#8220;Marriage Development Board&#8221; and advice on how to keep the &#8220;boing&#8221; in your marriage. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Counselling Can Be Expensive (An Update)</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 27 Jul 2010 03:46:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Now that is a truism. Sometimes I tell my clients that I can’t even afford me! (I am never sure how they take that.) But how you feel about the expense of counselling depends a lot on what you get out of it.
My fee will increase on September 1 to $165 per hour (Carole’s fee [...]]]></description>
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		<title>When Life Happens: A + B = C</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 20 Jul 2010 17:17:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[“Julie” had a lot of anxiety about most things. Relationships seemed to paralyze her. Her husband complained about the embarrassment of leaving parties before everyone else, or having to make excuses for declining business events that he wanted to attend. Sometimes Julie would even avoid contact with her own adult children if it involved meeting [...]]]></description>
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		<title>An Anger Parable</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 10 Jul 2010 17:24:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[There once was a little boy who had a temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the backyard fence. The first day the boy drove 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Vocation – The Work a Person is Called To</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Jul 2010 05:45:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Frederick Buechner writes: “It comes from the Latin vocare, to call, and means the work a person is called to by God. There are all different kinds of voices calling you to all different kinds of work, and the problem is to find out which is the voice of God rather than of Society, say, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Counselling with Paddy &#8212; a Client Rave</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Jun 2010 21:29:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sometimes I receive raves. Here is one that I received not too long ago. [If passing this on to you seems too self-promoting, see the previous blogs on depression. You will be happy then!]
I walked into my first appointment with Paddy reluctantly to say the least, but I quickly learned that I was there for [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Pain Causes Change</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Jun 2010 05:01:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Issac Newton’s first law of motion is that “everything continues in a state of rest unless it is compelled to change by forces impressed upon it.” Psychologists know that pain causes change.
People and organizations change painfully. Recently, two organizations have contacted me to work with them as a change agent in their stuck organizational system. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>What Not to Say to Your Depressed Friend</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 19 Jun 2010 01:04:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Job had his counsellors and they were pretty good until they started to talk. At that point, they spiraled down &#8212; and quickly. Here are the kind of things people say to depressed people when they should probably just go home.
• Just think of those people who are worse off than you are.
• Life’s not [...]]]></description>
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		<title>What Do You Say to Your Depressed Friend?</title>
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		<comments>http://theducklows.ca/what-do-you-say-to-your-depressed-friend/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Jun 2010 20:19:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Mostly we say stuff that doesn&#8217;t help our depressed friend but relieves our urgency to impact helpfully and avoids our anxiety in sitting numbly. Then who are we helping? Probably ourselves.
Sitting patiently, looking caringly, wondering quietly &#8212; this helps, but eventually it is probably necessary to say something. So here are a few statements that, [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Take 2 Aspirin and Keep Away from Children</title>
		<link>http://theducklows.ca/take-2-aspirin-and-keep-away-from-children/</link>
		<comments>http://theducklows.ca/take-2-aspirin-and-keep-away-from-children/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 05 Jun 2010 05:48:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[After creating heaven and earth, God created Adam and Eve. The first thing He said was, &#8220;Don&#8217;t.&#8221; &#8220;Don&#8217;t what?&#8221; Adam replied. &#8220;Don&#8217;t eat the forbidden fruit&#8221; God said.&#8221;Forbidden fruit? We have forbidden fruit? Hey, Eve. . . we have forbidden fruit!&#8221; &#8220;No way!&#8221; &#8220;Yes, way!&#8221; &#8220;Do NOT eat the fruit!&#8221; said God. &#8220;Why?&#8221; &#8220;Because I [...]]]></description>
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